Do you still celebrate a birthday as a widow? When I became a widow, there wasn’t an instruction manual. There were no rules about celebrating milestones after your husband dies, especially not birthdays. Birthdays are a “celebration of life.” What…
Category: Grief
My Dad Isn’t Coming
It’s been 16 months since Moe’s death, and I have gone through all of MY firsts without him. Today, our son graduated from kindergarten and while I was selfishly crying because Moe wasn’t here for me, I realized that this…
How to Navigate Grief During Covid-19
This evening, on the eve of the Inauguration, I watched coverage of the National Covid-19 Memorial. Tonight, we remember the 400,000 lives lost. As I listened to Lori, the nurse from Michigan, sing Amazing Grace, the tears just started to…
Letter to 2020
Dear 2020, Girl you thought you could take me out, but 2019 already tried. You see, I lost my husband that December, then I buried him in January. My village was strong, but my circle was even stronger. My faith…
How My Son Saved My Life
I’ll never forget Kevin Durant’s MVP speech in 2014 when he said to his mother, “You sacrificed for us. You’re the real MVP.” One day I will sit down with my son and tell him how he saved my life….
How Grief Reminded Me to Be Grateful
“The single greatest thing that you can do to change your life today would be to start being grateful for what you have right now.” -Oprah Winfrey Last week, New Orleans was hit with Hurricane Zeta. One day, I was…
Birthday Letter
Lish, can I just tell you how amazing you are? I honestly don’t know how you do it. You get up every single day like you didn’t cry yourself to sleep the night before. Last year, I remember you saying…
5 Things You Should Never Tell A Widow
When you find out that someone has suffered a loss, what’s the first thing that you say? The number one answer is…..”I’m sorry for your Loss.” Not Lost. We say it because that’s the answer that we have been conditioned…