Self-Care Love Language

Self-Care Love Language

A therapist once asked me if I knew what my self-love language was. At the time, I had never heard of Gary Chapman or his book, The Five Love Languages. There are five love languages that explain how different personalities express love. This is very helpful for couples, but I also realized that it is even more important to know what your self-love language is for yourself.

How can you possibly show yourself love if you don’t know what your self-care love language is? As a widow, I have practiced self-care daily and knowing what my languages are allows me to properly refill my cup.

Do you know what your Self-Care Love Language is?

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Quality Time

If your self-care love language is Quality Time, scheduling time alone or “me time” is necessary for you. You enjoy solo dates, sipping coffee alone at your favorite coffee shop or taking a long walk. You have no problems sending time alone.

Words of Affirmation

If your self-care love language is Words of Affirmation, You are your biggest cheerleader. Sometimes you just have to look in the mirror and tell yourself how bomb you are. Affirmations and mantras are your thing. You might even have post it notes all over just as a reminder!


There’s a quote that says, “Of course I get myself whatever I want, I love her.” You show yourself love with gifts. Maybe it’s a new lipstick, pair of shoes or that bag you have been eyeing.

Acts of Service

If You love completing tasks, your self-care love language is Acts of Service. Cleaning out your closet, using your planner or preparing healthy meals are ways that you show yourself love.

Physical Touch

When you think of self-care, you think of a spa day or massage. You show yourself love by honoring your body. Pampering is essential.

Do you have an idea of what your self-care love languages are? Most people have more than one. Here’s a quiz to help you figure it out! Leave your language in the comments!

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